Self-confidence starts with being true to yourself and your personal values. You do this by making and keeping commitments, first to yourself and then to others. Every day you make commitments or promises to yourself, “I’m going to get up at 7,” “I’m going to walk 15 minutes this morning,” “I’m going to eat a healthy lunch.” And every time you keep a commitment to yourself, your self-confidence grows. But the opposite is also true. And every time you fail to keep a commitment or follow through, your self-confidence is weakened. This is the key to self-confidence.
If you have struggled with self-confidence, you likely don’t follow through with commitments to yourself and others. Take a minute and write down the commitments you made this past week and whether you followed through or not. Choose today to be different. Choose today to make and keep commitments to yourself and others. Be realistic, start small, and only commit to things you know you will actually do. As you continue this process, and slowly build with time your self-confidence will continue to grow. Additionally, don’t forget that the way you talk to yourself matters. Choose today to love yourself.
Be Willing To Say No
In order to make and keep commitments you will have to learn to say no. Life is too busy and there is simply too much going on to do everything you’d like. This means some things will have to go. Some things you would have liked to do will have to take a back seat to your health goals because they aren’t as important. You must learn to prioritize, putting the very important things (like health) first, before other less important things.
Our problem as a whole is, health has taken a back to seat to things like excessive work, TV, Internet, video games, hobbies, and other activities. This isn’t to say these things are inherently bad. They aren’t. What is bad is when less important things crowd out the most important things in your life, including your health—because nothing else is possible without it. Try to combine your hobbies and social time with healthy things. Proper sleep, exercise and nutrition must become the backbone of each and every one of your days—they must become the core of your lifestyle. To accomplish this you must be willing to say no to yourself and to others. Your self-confidence and your health depend on it.